If you decided to delegate some wedding planning tasks -- such as allowing your mom to research rental agencies, or having your aunt make the favors according to your design -- it would be a big mistake and a ton of extra stress if you didn't let go of those particular jobs just a little bit.

Of course, you want things to be the way you envisioned them, and most brides worry that if they hand over tasks to someone else, there's a good chance that their project is going to veer away from their request or design. Especially if you delegated to someone who has a habit of swerving things toward their own vision.

But you trusted the people you delegated to, and now it's up to you to just relax a little bit and trust that they're going to do it your way.

Instead of endlessly checking in and asking for status reports, or sending 'guiding' e-mails that basically mean you're doing the job and just telling them what to do, solve this big problem by requiring your helpers to check with you before they finalize any plans. That means that rental agency info is just to be collected right now, not booked. The favor design can be photographed and e-mailed to you before your aunt buys any materials.

It's perfectly okay to say, "Just be sure to send me the details, so my groom and I can check everything out, before you book or buy or go to any extra trouble."

Your helpers want to make you happy, and they'll appreciate your specifically asking for the final okay before anything is set in stone. Sometimes you have to state the obvious in requesting final approval.

When you send that message, that removes the issue from your plate, and the helpers you trust are able to move forward with their tasks, and you're able to sleep at night.

Trusting your helpers = Planning in Peace