I've been a fan of Daylle Deanna Schwartz for ages, and now I'm so excited to share with you her new book, which is going to help you so much if you're a 'Nice Girl' and have that People-Pleaser mentality that even Oprah has said she's struggled with. As you plan your wedding, you're probably going to feel torn between being 'Nice' and flipping out when a mom or bridesmaid makes 'requests' or gives you a tough time. People-Pleasers suffer from a lot of resentment and simmer over conflicts for a long time, so pick up Daylle's book and save yourself with the knowledge that Nice Girls Can Finish First! You'll use these skills in your marriage, at work, in life...which is a fabulous thing!

Many women believe that nice girls get less. They see being nice as a weakness, not as the strength it can be. But there's a BIG difference between being nice and being a People Pleaser or DoorMat. The People Pleasing kind of nice girls find it difficult to be expressive. They often feel used and taken for granted by others. These "nice girls" constantly mold themselves to be liked and often don't get taken seriously. So does this mean "nice girls" have to bare their claws to keep the cruel world from crushing them before they even know it?

As a former DoorMat/consummate People Pleaser, Daylle says, NO! Women do not have to be demanding and tough to get what they want. They can assert their desires and feelings with a soft, friendly tone and a smile, and still be liked and respected, what Daylle calls a Nice Girl on Top. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST redefines the word NICE and provides tools for speaking and setting boundaries, while still being a nice person.

NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is for every woman who has felt lousy about herself for being nice after getting taken advantage of or feeling used. And it's for women who want to feel empowered without contradicting natural instincts by being aggressive or unkind. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is for religious and spiritual women who go out of their way to be nice to others with a spiritual intention, but don't like the hurt feelings and anger that pleasing everyone can stoke. God wants you to be nice to yourself too!

NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST provides step-by-step methods for creating a total lifestyle that supports taming People Pleasing habits and guides women to take control of their lives. The book gives very specific tips for how to handle yourself in more effective ways by:   

• Distinguishing between being NICE and being a people pleaser/DoorMat
• Explaining how to control anger and frustration to handle yourself in ways that get better responses from others
• Offering concrete tools and techniques for modulating your voice, approaching situations with a confident attitude, using more effective words in common situations and other specific ways to get taken more seriously and get more of your needs met
• Showing why smiling and speaking in soft tones gets a point across better
• Confidence boosters for approaching situations in more effective ways.

NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is the direct opposite of self-empowerment books that encourage women to develop a no-nonsense personality. It illustrates that women can speak softly, with a smile, and get taken seriously, by taming their people pleasing instincts to become a healthier version of nice. Women tend to get angry and complain when someone does her wrong. Daylle's motto is "EXPLAIN, DON'T COMPLAIN!" Nicely expressing a problem offers a better chance to be heard objectively. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST gives specific tips for how to become a Nice Girl on Top in all areas of life, including:

• Setting boundaries with demanding parents
• Staying in control of yourself in romantic situations
• Getting better results from customers service representatives
• Responding to unacceptable behavior or demands from friends
• Handling work situations more effectively
• Learning how to turn down requests in ways that don't alienate
• Responding to unacceptable behavior and MUCH MORE

Daylle learned how to take control of her life and still be a very nice girl. You CAN too! This book is a roadmap to take the reins and guide your life to a happier, more satisfying place where smiles, courtesy and kindness are assets.

Order on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Nice-Girls-Can-Finish-First/dp/0071609075/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1251480399&sr=8-1

At Daylle's website: http://www.daylle.com/daylle/bookinfo-nice-girls.html