Nothing good will happen if you plan to confront a rude bridesmaid or a meddling Mom right when the injury hits....or even if you've been dwelling on that snarky comment all day, getting angrier by the minute.

The old adage 'strike when the iron is hot' doesn't apply during wedding planning! It's a big, big mistake to think that you'll gain an advantage if your 'adversary' hears you in an irate tirade. You'll just be spewing angry, sometimes nonsensical things that only make your injury worse. And mean people feel victorious when they can make you lose your cool.

So step away, give it some time, clear your head a little bit. Simmer down, and then you can confront the rude, pushy, offending person with a better sense of self-control that will allow you to stick to the topic at hand.

A great way to release some of that anger and stress before you speak to them is to write out all of your thoughts - expletives included! -- on paper [so that you can't mistakenly hit send, or have a file on your computer that anyone can see now or in the future]. A nice, angry tell-off letter can get your venting in motion, and you'll never send it. That's one for the fireplace or the shredder after it's done its job for you.

Think of anger as a super-strong perfume you over-apply, engulfing you in a choking cloud. You wouldn't expect anyone to get close to you. Your man would never approach for a kiss, a cuddle or anything else. You've got to let that cloud disperse before you should get near anyone. Writing can get the anger out onto the paper, which is the safest place for your initial rage to be.

Soon, you'll be in a better mindset to make that phone call telling your Mom that you wish she didn't change that cake order behind your back, or to send that e-mail offering your bridesmaid the chance to step out of the bridal party if she's truly that unhappy with how you're planning your wedding. Solutions only come from a peaceful place, so take the steps to get yourself into that peaceful place first before you confront. It doesn't work the other way around.