It's His Day Too.

Even if you have the sweetest groom in the world, one who says, "It's HER day" to all who ask, the truth is that your wedding day is equally important to your groom.

Grooms tell me they feel very frustrated when they feel their ideas are not being heard nor respected by their brides, the parents, even the vendors...and their frustrations only grow when they have no 'safe way' to express how they feel. "Face it, I'm not gonna call my guy friends and complain because my bride is making all the decisions about the menu."

And no groom of any quality is going to complain to his mother about you calling all the shots.

So make it a rule that the old 'It's MY day' expectation goes out the window. 'Fire' yourself as the boss of the day, and accept that you share the top spot with your groom. If you've had a tight hold of the reins so far, now's the time for you to show your character, apologize to your groom, and let him know the coast is clear for all of his wedding plan suggestions.

It's never too late to extend your hand in equality to your groom.

When you get to this realization, this knowing that you're both co-creators of this special day and all the days after it, you join the ranks of those women who give their marriages a better chance at succeeding. You become someone who's happily married.

All of those brides who hold onto the reins, even going so far as to say to friends and relatives, "Oh, he doesn't know what he's doing" about a groom who (horror!) is within earshot, humilated....let's just say they have dark days ahead.

Share your stories here. How did you invite your groom to jump into the wedding plans? Did you apologize for being too bossy in the past? Grooms, how long did it take for you to feel safe in making suggestions?