You have to give a little to get a little. If you're in a situation where an in-law has requested something for the wedding that is slightly different than the way you envisioned it, why not make a little change so that you're both happy? It'll be worth it in the long run if you make every effort to include his side of the family, whenever it's a detail or a plan that doesn't eliminate what you really want. Case in point...my future mother-in-law wants to enact a traditional Polish ritual of presenting us with bread, salt and wine as symbols of good luck. But in their family, this ritual is done when the bride and groom walk into the reception. Looking at the entry celebration, that's when everyone's introduced into the room, and Joe and I have our First Dance. It would wreck the whole entry moment to do the bread, salt and wine thing right away. So, here's what we came up with...we'll be introduced into the room, we'll dance our first dance (to 'At Last' by Etta James), do the parents' dances, and THEN she can do the bread, salt and wine thing before the Best Man's toast instead of after the toasts as we had originally planned. She doesn't have to be nervous about her presentation for long, it's done at the start of the reception, and everyone's happy. It just takes a little bit of shuffling to get an in-law's traditions into your day, and everyone can continue Planning in Peace knowing that their most important rituals are included.