Don't make the peace-wrecking mistake that many brides make by assuming that their grooms' delays on working on wedding tasks is disinterest. At any stage during the wedding plans, and especially when the big day is just weeks away, many grooms feel a ton more anxiety than they readily admit. And their way of dealing with it might be to wall off a little bit, take a day or two before making a seating chart with you...because they're nervous.

Grooms tell me, "I didn't want to tell her that I'm nervous because SHE'S nervous right now, and I don't want her to over-react and think that I don't want to get married." Grooms say that their stressed-out brides can get a little creative with their worries, and it's 'safer' to just self-protect by doing tasks when they feel more pulled-together.

So if your groom says, 'not tonight, honey,' just take it at that. Don't read in hidden meanings of castrophes, and don't attempt to 'cure' your groom of his nervous feelings by grilling him to share his thoughts and thinking that you can snap him out of it. We all have to spend some time in the soup of anxiety, and your man is no different. This wedding is greatly on his mind, so allow him the peace of mind in a delay. It's the most loving thing you can do.