Even if someone did something incredibly insensitive or selfish regarding your wedding plans or your life right now -- which hurts all the more while you're in this heightened emotional season -- it's really best for YOU if you can find a way to journal out your feelings and find a way to release what they've done. It does you no good, and in fact hurts your health, to hold a grudge. Do you really want to be this stressed out over something you couldn't prevent and can't change?

Forgiving is the best course of action. Now, entire books have been written on the subject of forgiveness, and in all of them, you'll read that forgiveness is not saying what they did is okay or giving them the freedom to kick you in the stomach again. It's a gift to YOURSELF, permission to let go of the hurt, so that you can proceed with caution when dealing with them in the future (such as not confiding in them about the wedding plans).

People do crappy things. It's a fact of life. But the mistake you make is in marinating in your own anger. So write out your thoughts [better to get them out of your head!], avoiding analyzing the person, and replace that anger and hurt with appreciation that you don't have this kind of trouble with more people, or that your spouse-to-be had your back during the altercation. There has to be a positive in this somewhere. Even if it's the freedom from having a hurtful person 'get you' again in the future...then you can move forward into Planning in Peace