Sometimes they just go too, too far, and it's so bad that taking the high road and letting a mean person's attacks float past you is just *not* going to be possible. You can't stand there and be pummeled.

This weekend, I just had to cut a major player out of our wedding plans. Anyone who insults my fiance based on irrational assumptions, and sends me home in tears with my heart pounding out of my chest, isn't going to get any honor on our big day. So, that person is OUT. With a capital O. And I'm not worried in the least about damaging a future relationship with this person because insulting my fiance for sport isn't on my Okay List. I'm not worried about what other people will think, because everyone knows that if I -- a person of great tolerance and empathy - have cut someone out, it must be bad.

Sometimes you just have to turn away from those who want to hurt you. Especially during this time of your life.

So if someone is really ripping at you, make them persona non grata. They don't exist. Not in your wedding world. And don't waste a second worrying about what other guests at the wedding will think about your 'firing' a bridesmaid, a parent, or anyone else who can't treat you with basic decency. The truth is, if guests notice, they're distracted by the food moments later. No one spends the whole reception gossiping about who's not in the bridal party or who isn't involved in the ceremony.

And here's an unexpected upside...my fiance told me how proud he is of me, that I refused to take the abuse, that I stood up for him in a very big way. I know I'd feel the same if he gave someone the boot in my honor. Wedding planning time is your training ground for a strong marriage. Now is when you show others that you're a united front. You may not have to chop someone from the wedding, but you might remove them from a task, or just not consult with them for ideas anymore. If they don't honor you and your fiance, they don't get honors from you. Case closed.

Are you in the same position, considering chopping someone from your wedding plans? Scared to do it? Post your story on the Comments here, and we'll all support you. I'll have more coming up in future blog posts about Firing the Wicked, so stay tuned.