Holding on to a grudge is just a waste of energy, so why wreck your wedding planning time with worries about a family feud or lingering resentments over sibling rivalry? It's far better for your own well-being to drop the grudge and start over with a clean slate. A wedding is a great time for a reconciliation with a parent, a step-parent, a sibling or a friend, so check out On the Couch With Gail Saltz for some terrific insights on why making up is wise to do.

You could get a wedding gift of much greater value when peace is restored to your family...sometimes you need to be the goodwill ambassador and allow harmony back into your world.

Of course this applies for garden variety resentments, not any cases where there is emotional abuse, cruelty, or betrayal. In those cases, aim for a peaceful co-existence where you release the anger but keep a healthy distance. Some people are not supposed to be a close part of your life...

Share your story in the Comments here...are you trying to find a way to forgive and forget, for the sake of your own wedding peace?