It's a mistake that we all make at some point during the wedding planning phase...maybe at a lot of points. You've just finished picking out the music for your ceremony, and before you're done writing down 'Pachelbel's Canon in D,' you're already clicking on sample wedding vows. You've hardly completed one task and your mindset is WHAT'S NEXT?

You didn't even take a moment to sit back and breathe in the immense pleasure of finalizing the decisions you just made together.

Brides tell me, "But I had my groom's attention! He was sitting right there, all focused and enthusiastic about the ceremony music, so I figured we'd just move right into the vows!" What happened there is that you rushed right into What's Next. And that probably caused your groom to sigh, get edgy, and maybe even say something about your never being satisfied. Ouch! The worst thing is, rushing into What's Next *is* a sign that you weren't satisfied with getting the music selected. You didn't mean to blow through it. But your excitement got the best of you, and the dreamy moment of music selection led to tension.

That's what's alway going to happen when your mindset is 'What's Next?'

So let's establish a new practice for peaceful planning: when you complete a wedding task, take 24 hours to soak it in. Forget about What's Next and focus on What Is. You just completed the soundtrack for your ceremony -- that's something to absorb, to imagine, to enjoy, to celebrate over a great dinner. Soak in the satisfaction of a team effort, or else *you* become the dreaded Unpleasable person I wrote about in a previous blog (and we know you don't want to be THAT bride!)

Think about how annoying it is when your family isn't even done with Thanksgiving dinner, and someone's already claiming Christmas or Hannukah at their house. They've rushed ahead, and they filled everyone in the room with tension...and dread. And resentment. Geez, can't you just enjoy today? THAT's what we're going to prevent with your wedding plans when you establish the 24-hour satisfaction period for each task you complete.

Give it a try and see the difference. An added benefit: Your groom will be far more willing to join you on wedding tasks when he isn't feeling dragged into the next four things on your list.