If you're like most brides-to-be, they're probably scrunched up by your ears. It's the strangest feeling when you focus on where your shoulders are...how unnatural it can feel when you consciously relax them....seems like they come down 4 inches, right? Carrying that tension around isn't good for you, and remedying the situation is one of the best tasks your groom inherits. It's time for nightly massages, the Rx factor of the bride-to-be.

So go out there and find some pretty-scented massage oils -- lavender, orange ginger and vanilla are my personal favorites -- and tell your groom that massages are a part of your Peaceful Bride routine now. He may relish the chance to get his hands on you, you might offer massages in return, you can alternate nights (or alternate body parts -- feet one night and shoulders another)...and you don't have to set up all the candles and turn on holistic music to make this 'an event.' While you're watching TV is fine, and TV even gives you a built-in timer in case you're not up for a half-hour massage. It's just going to be from one commercial break to another.

Besides the obvious muscle relaxation work, you're connecting with each other, meeting each other's needs, and -- even better -- a happy side benefit of massages is learning even more about the sensations that please your partner. This is one daily To Do that's going to deliver results immediately...so keep it going all the way through your wedding planning era, and ever after.