If there's a bride or groom out there who hasn't snapped at a partner, a parent or a vendor at some point during the planning, it's as rare as a unicorn. We all have our bad days, and when we have bosses on our butts rushing us to deadline, bills piling up, deadlines looming, and people chiming in with critiques of our wedding plans -- or requests for us to add just five more people to the guest list -- something's gotta give.

So, brides and grooms, give each other Amnesty for any snappy comebacks or sarcastic remarks at this time. You don't want to hurt each other, and that's not your intention. It's just that you've hit a breaking point and you're frustrated....so sometimes your statement comes out with a little bit of an edge. Which, if you don't embrace a policy of empathy and amnesty for your pressure-filled partner, you'll turn it into a big, big problem. What usually comes next is the dreaded, "Well, you always talk to me like that" or "You always get mad when you've talked on the phone to your mother." That's not loving at all.

So designate this time as a time of being gentle, knowing that snapping comes with the territory of a pressure-filled life drizzled with the flammable fuel of pressure-filled wedding planning. Let that sarcastic comment float away, and don't let it grow into an attack that stays with you or your partner.