Yes, you want to share the excitement of your planning with your parents, friends and colleagues, but there's a big danger to your peace level when you say too much too soon.

If you tell your parents about your plans to have a big seafood buffet at the cocktail hour, and then a few weeks later change your mind about that sounded-good-at-the-time idea, you might be on the receiving end of an interrogation. "Why did you decide against the seafood buffet?" "But we already told everyone about the seafood buffet!" "Why do you keep changing your mind about everything?" See how it works? You're wide open for a stream of questioning and criticizing, even if it's not ill-intentioned. It's just feedback that robs you of your peace, because now you're mad that you're being questioned. You should be allowed to change your mind, right?

Spare yourself the frustration of this feedback by keeping quiet about your specific wishes, ideas and future plans until they're booked and in the works. That cuts out so much of the unwelcome commentary and keeps your wedding discussions on a harmonious level that adds to your joy.

And grooms say they appreciate this advice too, since they don't get cornered by their parents about how you changed your mind on some plan or other. Grooms then avoid being in the hot seat, needing to defend you against unfair charges of being flighty, and that's a great gift to your man as well.